The world has seen enough wars and discord; battles that ruin lives without ever truly solving anything. To me, the point of living is finding solace in the small things life offers, not fighting for what was never ours to begin with. The tug of war for land, people, commodities, and livestock has scared the world and shown the worst scenarios, but still, the so-called wise people haven’t learned their lessons. It’s because of them that History will repeat itself over and over again till the earth becomes irremediable, with people living on scraps and fighting to survive. This where BL world comes in.
The world is getting smaller day by day, but at the same time, people are drifting apart. Everybody knows everything, and that has led to them not needing anyone to rely on or be vulnerable in front of. Today’s world feels full of chaos and competition; everyone is trying to prove they’re living better than others. That’s why people like us turn to fictional love lessons. In these stories, we see the consequences of choices, and sometimes even learn lessons that real life refuses to teach us.
It’s always the ones who don’t want to let anyone in. But once in a blue moon, there comes a person who turns your world upside down. There is a quote that goes: Love and Death will always find you. So, today we will be talking about what lessons we can learn from BL manga, BL manhwa, and BL donghua, which are basically online Boys’ Love stories:
- Experimental Phase: Many BL couples are discovering love for the first time. Often, they see themselves as “straight”, until one specific person makes them question everything.
- Yin and Yang couple: One of them or both of them would always be jealous of the other person’s experience with other people, because how dare anyone touch their so-called beloved. These BL jealousy tropes create much of the drama.
- No boundaries: The key to a happy life is respect and good communication skills, but that doesn’t work when it comes to them. Nobody listens to each other when they are having sex, they test the limits, or they make their way — one of the classic chaotic BL relationships.
- Beautiful Couples: They are always too pretty, and that makes them insecure about their partner all the time. They are pretty like a model — a common BL storytelling theme.
- Discover everything: They feel too much during their sex scenes; it’s not like homosexual couples, who just do it. These people experience every nook and cranny to understand what makes the other feel the most pleasure. This focus on sensation is a unique part of BL romance psychology.
- A Must – Foreplay: BL doesn’t skip the details. Foreplay is everything; it’s about building intimacy, pushing boundaries, and making sure both partners feel every emotion and sensation. Many fans see this as one of the most realistic BL love dynamics.
- Top or Bottom: The person who gets to be the top is decided on the size of the penis; the bigger one gets to dominate and put it in. Although the power of the relationship lies in the hands of the bottom, since they are the muse. This top and bottom dynamic is one of the most popular BL relationship tropes.
- Don’t Stop: Always get your frustrations/ jealousy out by almost killing the bottom without giving them a room or time to catch their breath. A darker side of BL couples.
- The BL Setup: It’s always either about First love, Childhood love, Unrequited love, or Obsessive love. There are only a few love stories where the Top and Bottom both are cute, sweet, and green flags that respect the boundaries and communicate rather than dragging it till the misunderstanding makes them grow apart and bitter. These BL storytelling themes repeat often.
- Love Initiation: They fall in love at first sight, or first sex or first blowjob; everything that’s got to do with being the first, they will take it as a sign of love. They most of the time ignore red screaming Flags because they have been unloved throughout their life and would take any kind of abuse that even remotely disguises as love or affection. A core part of many BL romance lessons.
- Immature Relationship: Whenever one of them sees their significant other with another person, man or woman, they get jealous and go out of their way to show the other person they are theirs. So, a very childish, stupid, and chaotic relationship — classic in BL manhwa.
- Learning Experience: Every sex scene is a lesson for them. They learn by doing things differently, and the sole reason is to get pleasure, and most of the time it’s about the bottom’s pleasure. This shows how BL couples turn intimacy into growth.
- Fixated on being the One: They want to be either the first one, last one, or the only one for anything, be it crying, sex, kissing, or whatnot. This fixation is one of the most recognisable BL love dynamics.
I know people see reading about yaoi manga or BL stories as disgusting, but for me, it’s about more than that. For me, BL isn’t just about same-sex relationships — it’s about love, vulnerability, and the messy ways people try to hold on to each other. Which BL couple taught you the most about love? Drop your favourite in the comments.
My Favourites:
– Love Tractor (Greenest ML and MC)
– Red Candy (Action/ Drama/ Loving ML and MC)
– Sign (Funny/ Cute MC + Chaotic ML)
– Our Sunny Days (ML with a baby + Tough but shy MC)
– Shutline (Gangster vibes + Dramatic story)
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